A LIGHT HEARTED LIST OF TYPICAL SELVES YOU MEET EACH DAY

Please don’t take this list seriously! There really is no ‘official’ list of the inner selves by name and certainly no ‘Top 100’. However many people have asked me for a list of names and this is just a rough collection. There are many more, not listed here, so feel free to add your own and drop me an E-mail telling me about them so I can include them here.
Grouping the names under different headings, as I have done, does not mean that these selves will always belong there. A primary self in my list may be one that is disowned in yours. One of your private and hidden selves may be a High Intensity self on someone else’s list. That explains why (as you will notice) I have included the same name under two or more headings.
 

SOME OF THE MOST COMMON PRIMARY SELVES INCLUDE:

Rule maker
"Caretaker 
"Pleaser "
Peacekeeper 

Inner Critic

Nurturing parent

Logical Mind

Authentic open Honest & Blunt

Pusher

Freedom Fighter

Happy Face
Responsible Parent
Rebel or Mutineer
Scheduler
Professional
Knower
Judge
Critical Parent
Permission Seeker
Victim

TYPICAL CONDITIONAL PROTECTOR PRIMARY SELVES
Commonly found selves that operate by setting up conditions for example "We'll do what you want provide you don't make us vulnerable"

Any of the above conditional protectors can be primary selves for you or another individual

TYPICAL HIGH INTENSITY (Dramatic Energy) SELVES
High Intensity selves are less logical, more animal and instinctual, using drama, cunning, confusion, high-levels of energy or manipulation to draw attention away from the vulnerable selves. They "protect" by being so intense that no one notices the vulnerable self behind the protector.

TYPICAL DISEMPOWERING (YOU CAN’T DO IT) SELVES

Disempowering selves stop you experiencing your real power, your real ability and block your emotional growth, because they believe their way is the best for keeping you out of pain. They treat the risk of vulnerability as being as bad as vulnerability itself and they associate ‘taking action’ with the of risk, pain or worse. These are the selves that are often most responsible for disowning your natural power selves and your adult ‘I Can Do It’ abilities.

TYPICAL DISOWNED SELVES
Even the disowned selves are protectors, in the sense that by staying disowned, they save the vulnerable selves from being shamed, blamed or hurt. By keeping right out of the picture, they do not put the vulnerable selves at risk.

SOME TYPICAL PRIVATE AND HIDDEN (VULNERABLE) PARTS

The private and hidden (too vulnerable) parts or not really selves. Rather they are parts of our personailty that the inner selves are wanting to protect. These are the parts that help you to get closer to others and to yourself, and give you the power to show your most vulnerable feelings. It is the openness and naturalness of the private parts that makes them (and you) lovable, worth nurturing, caring for, protecting and safe to be with.

NOTE: In the Growing Awareness program the term "Aware Adult" is not the same as or used used in place of the "Aware Ego" as Hal and Sidra use the term. The term "Aware Adult" also reflects many of the characteristics of the part Hal and Sidra call the "Awareness Self" or "The Watcher"  I find this variation easier for Australians to understand, particularly as the term "ego" in Australia has so many different connotations and meanings for people (some of them quite negative)

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