Please don’t take this list seriously! There really is no ‘official’ list of the inner selves by name and certainly no ‘Top 100’. However many people have asked me for a list of names and this is just a rough collection. There are many more">

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The 'Top 100' Inner Selves Please don’t take this list seriously! There really is no ‘official’ list of the inner selves by name and certainly no ‘Top 100’. However many people have asked me for a list of names and this is just a rough collection. There are many more, not listed here, so feel free to add your own and drop me an E-mail telling me about them so I can include them here. Grouping the names under different headings, as I have done, does not mean that these selves will always belong there. A primary self in my list may be one that is disowned in yours. One of your private and hidden selves may be a High Intensity self on someone else’s list. That explains why (as you will notice) I have included the same name under two or more headings. NOTE - INNER SELVES OFTEN REFLECT ARCHETYPES Inner selves are often very similar to characters from the world of drama, films and TV such as Rhett Butler, Shirley Valentine or Xena, characters from bedtime stories and ancient myths and legends such as Aphrodite, Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty; and from real life historical dramas such as George Washington or Captain Bligh. All these best loved or most hated figures have become favourites because they reflect archetype selves (the most common and most typical inner selves for so many people) so it is not at all surprising to find an inner self adopting a name that goes with their energy or personality. SOME OF THE MOST COMMON PRIMARY SELVES INCLUDE: Rule maker ">Caretaker ">Pleaser ">Peacekeeper Inner Critic Nurturing parent Logical Mind Authentic open Honest & Blunt Pusher FreedomFighter         Happy Face Responsible Parent Rebel or Mutineer Scheduler Professional Knower Judge Critical Parent Permission Seeker Victim TYPICAL CONDITIONAL PROTECTOR PRIMARY SELVES Commonly found selves that operate by setting up conditions for example "We'll do what you want provide you don't make us vulnerable" Academic (Good Student) Anaesthetist Analyser Caretaker Cartoon Character CEO (Captain) Character Player Cinderella Commander Controller Cowboy Defender (Soldier) Diplomat Doctor Parent Doormat Earth Mother Evaluator Farmer Fixer Good Son/Daughter Good/Caring Parent Happy Soul Heavyweight Protector Hero Historical Figure Inner Cynic Inner Satirist Intellectual Thinker Joker/Clown Judge Kindly Grandparent Lawyer Logical Thinker Lost In The Woods Magistrate Martyr Matriarch Moralist Morally Pure Mother Protector Mother Superior Movie Actor Navigator Nice Person Nun Omnipotent Authentic open Honest & Blunt Outspoken Patriarch Peace At Any Price People Controller Perfectionist Permission Seeker Perpetual Victim Pleaser (Nice Self) Politician Power Self Priest Professional Self Psychologist Parent Pusher Radar (Vigilant) Rebel (Mutineer) Relaxed Responsible Mother Reverend (Pastor) Rule Maker Satirist Scripted Self Critic Self Controller Soldier Very Good Person Vigilant (Radar) CHARACTER PLAYERS TV AND Movie Characters Xena Wonder Woman Hercules Cartoon Characters Historical Figures Ethnic Figures Any of the above conditional protectors can be primary selves for you or another individual TYPICAL HIGH INTENSITY (Dramatic Energy) SELVES High Intensity selves are less logical, more animal and instinctual, using drama, cunning, confusion, high-levels of energy or manipulation to draw attention away from the vulnerable selves. They "protect" by being so intense that no one notices the vulnerable self behind the protector. Always Right Always Wrong Avoider Bridge Dynamiter Captain Bligh Catastrophiser Confused Denial Distancer Dramatic Rebel Engulfment Avoider Exaggerator False Vulnerability Generaliser Hanging Judge Intimacy Avoider Knower Group Matriarch Medicator/Addict Negative Parent Negative-controller Out of Control Parent-critic Patriarch Psychologist Parent Psychological Knower Punisher Rebel Resentment Scapegoat Seductive Snobbish (Stu TYPICAL DISEMPOWERING (YOU CAN’T DO IT) SELVES Disempowering selves stop you experiencing your real power, your real ability and block your emotional growth, because they believe their way is the best for keeping you out of pain. They treat the risk of vulnerability as being as bad as vulnerability itself and they associate ‘taking action’ with the of risk, pain or worse. These are the selves that are often most responsible for disowning your natural power selves and your adult ‘I Can Do It’ abilities. Avoider Catastrophiser Chronically Unaware Confused Denial Distancer Don’t Expect Too Much False Vulnerability Fear of Intimacy Fear of Anger Fear of Failure Fear of Success Forgetful Leave It To Others Medicator / Addict Negative-controller Permission Seeker Pessimist Procrastinator Scapegoat Untruthful Victim We Can’t Do It We Can’t Win TYPICAL DISOWNED SELVES Even the disowned selves are protectors, in the sense that by staying disowned, they save the vulnerable selves from being shamed, blamed or hurt. By keeping right out of the picture, they do not put the vulnerable selves at risk. Adulterer/fornicator Adventurer Amway person Angry Child Animal Aphrodite (Goddess of Love) Bard Crude/Vulgar Don Juan Dionysius (God of Ecstasy) Experimenter Explorer Fantasy Person Gay Gypsy Inner Goddess Immoral Jezebel Joy Lost Child Magical Mystical Child Marketer Merchandiser Mutineer Natural Anger   Authentic open and honest Peace keeper Pirate Resentment Romantic Self Centred Sensual Lover Sexual Self Tiger/cat Whore Wicked/Demonic Wild one SOME TYPICAL PRIVATE AND HIDDEN (VULNERABLE) PARTS The private and hidden (too vulnerable) parts or not really selves. Rather they are parts of our personailty that the inner selves are wanting to protect. These are the parts that help you to get closer to others and to yourself, and give you the power to show your most vulnerable feelings. It is the openness and naturalness of the private parts that makes them (and you) lovable, worth nurturing, caring for, protecting and safe to be with. Abandoned Spiritual Self Randy/Flirt Warrior Rebel Great Lover Lost child Rule Breaker Guilty Frightened Lonely Worthless Resentful Vulnerable child NOTE: In the Growing Awareness program the term "Aware Adult" is not the same as or used used in place of the "Aware Ego" as Hal and Sidra use the term. The term "Aware Adult" also reflects many of the characteristics of the part Hal and Sidra call the "Awareness Self" or "The Watcher"  I find this variation easier for Australians to understand, particularly as the term "ego" in Australia has so many different connotations and meanings for people (some of them quite negative)   RETURN TO VOICE DIALOGUE - GETTING TO KNOW YOUR INNER SELVES RETURN TO GROWING AWARENESS HOME PAGE        Copyright © John Nutting 1996 - - 2004  and   ©   GROWING AWARENESS   All rights reserved World Wide   LAST UPDATE  Tuesday, 22 January 2008 14:39 Don't worry about these copyright notices at the foot of each page. 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