Stage1. Developing awareness of the
selves through classic voice dialogue
Not everyone has the same selves, so
getting to know your own is a key to solving many of the
stressful issues in your life. This first stage is easy,
enlightening, sometimes enjoyable, occasionally a bit scary.
Stage 2. Separating the selves from
the ‘real’ you
While each self is a part of you, no one of
them is ‘you’. As you gently separate from them you become
aware of which ones are right for one situation but not in
another; the ones that are helping you and the others that are
holding you back.
Stage 3. Grown up adult balances and
embraces opposing selves
The grown up aware adult part of you develops as you continue to
understand the selves. Don’t try to ‘get rid’ of a self,
however. That part of you has been working its little heart
out for years, doing its best to protect you (and succeeding
some of the time) until the adult side could came along.
Embrace it, thank it and offer it a chance to have a short
holiday but reassure it that there will be no sackings and no
redundancies, it needs to be told during a dialogue session
that it has a place in your heart forever. If two selves are
in conflict with each other, (polar opposites) it’s the
aware adult's job to to build a balanced linkage between
them also between overly strong selves, and too weak ones,
while embracing them all. This is the start of real
confidence, strength, peace, joy and much more in your life
and of course deeper, and more intimate friendships.
As
Carol herself puts it:
"Voice dialogue helped
me meet, and get to know my inner selves as
well-meaning friends who thought protecting me from my
vulnerability included safeguarding me from
discovering who the real ‘me’ was. As I grow into
my real adult awareness I can, at last, truly be
myself. The wonderful thing is, my ‘friends’ (my
inner selves) now help me in other ways that are
special for me and easier for them."
Carol Scott - Classic VOICE DIALOGUE
Facilitator, Artist, Trainer and Counsellor
My special
thanks to Carolyn
(Carol Scott) -
the facilitator who draws pictures of the
selves for
the trilogy of illustrations above and some more
below. Carol has copyrighted her work so if you would
like to reproduce it, please contact her for
permission Her e-mail is casbrighteyes@hotmail.com
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