1. The prime concern of each one of your primary selves is protecting your underlying vulnerability

2. Your hardest working primary selves are the most active ones because they are the most effective. 

3.The level of power or degree of energy of a primary self’s activity within you is a good indicator 
of how much it is needed

4. Your primary selves often operate automatically to help you cope more quickly when 
your unbalanced or negative core beliefs are triggered. 

5. Each primary self is a specialist. There are no combinations or ‘all rounders’. 

6. Primary selves keep growing bigger as they learn more each day about adapting and 
other ways to reduce your vulnerability or to help you deal with your negative core beliefs.

7. You are the total of all your selves. You are not ‘what your primary selves do’

8. Primary selves are like police, they are there to protect you, not to be popular. 

9. Your primary selves are the most powerful forces keeping you from experiencing
 true intimacy with others. As long as they are in charge of protecting you you cannot 
experience much real intimacy because to them, intimacy involves increased vulnerability! 

      10. Your primary selves are not the same selves other people have inside to protect their vulnerability.

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