Bottom
line issues
One of the reasons for interviewing your inner selves (inner
selves) is to learn from them about your bottom line or life issues and to
be able to distinguish these from what may seem important but which turn
out to be only symptoms pointing to the real issues.
Identifying a life issue starts when you notice a group of similar and
repetitive problem patterns. You or someone you know keeps experiencing
these same patterns again and again through life. If it's a bottom line
issue it will keep coming up in different ways, in your conversation, how
you see other people, what irritates you in others, what you like in other
people. It will usually stand out in the kind of work you do and how you
like that work, the kind of films you enjoy, how you like to relax.
Whatever you do, wherever you go there it is again. That's a life issue.
Your most powerful "life issues" are related to the problems
that worry you most, but they may also be involved in some of your best
solutions.
Addictive
cycles - over medication and vulnerability
It is normal for people to try to reduce their pain
and emotional pain is no exception. A person experiencing deep emotional
wounding or anxiety is extremely vulnerable and will do whatever they can
to block it. When the helpful selves in your inner village
(inner selves) run out of ways to reduce the pain and can no longer
provide protection, the next thing is to try substances or processes from
outside the village. At first these often seem to work almost
miraculously, so the process is repeated more and more often. But sooner
or later the treatment starts to lose its effectiveness.
"Is
it really safe for me to change?"
Making changes in your life using the methods described in these pages is
great ,but only if you are ready to change. And that includes self
assurance about change itself. It's better not to make changes until you
feel really confident about them and their effect on your life. The
methods we describe here do work, but the changes can be fast and
powerful. It's important to understand what is going to happen before you
begin. Then you can change with confidence.
Power,
control and individuality issues in relationships
Choosing
Between Personal and Impersonal Channels -
Negative Core beliefs - where they come from
- how to balance them
Muddled
Magic and the Little Trauma Witch -
The
troublesome ten percent
Inner selves and how they handle
emotions and feelings
YOU CAN CHOOSE ......
voice dialogue is the process developed by
Drs Hal and Sidra Stone. It still works as well as ever, we love it, we
still use it daily with our clients, and support it 100%.
We conduct regular training in Voice Dialogue in Brisbane
and in the Gold Coast and Buderim, Noosa Yandina areas.
To read and copy the
latest articles about VOICE DIALOGUE
go to our new Voice Dialogue
site:
http://www.inner-self-aware-voice-dialogue.com
Names
of Practicing voice dialogue facilitators
(Australia only)
Links
to voice dialogue websites (Australia and
overseas)
Practicing
voice dialogue facilitators (voice dialogue or Growing
Awareness) anywhere in Australia, please send us your contact details if
you would like to be added to our list - (Australia only)
Listings are FREE of course. We
are also happy to include links to your website on our site on a mutual
basis
Older
pages about Voice Dialogue - techniques and processes
Articles
of interest to FACILITATORS on this website:
LATEST
VOICE DIALOGUE LINKS Click here
OTHER LINKS OF INTEREST
Sex addiction in Australia
OR....take a look at an alternative ........
Our Growing
Awareness 2005 story-telling approach
is based very closely on Hal and Sidra Stone's Psychology of the
Selves (and voice dialogue). To find out more about this
alternate approach click on this link which
will take you to our new
website
http://www.growingaware.com/
From December 2004
many new postings will not appear on this website but
will be found on http://www.growingaware.com/
The process (if you are familiar with "voice dialogue") is still
voice dialogue. The difference is in the way we explain it. We follow an
alternative, more down to earth, storytelling path to describe what
is happening. It's an experiment to see if there is an
alternate way to explain and simplify self-awareness
work so people can use it
more easily and get results sooner.
It seems to work anyway,
whether you call it "voice dialogue " or try
the every-day terms we
are experimenting with. We know
that other people around the world are also trying similar alternative
approaches. If you are reading this and would like to make contact please
e-mail us: nutting@growingaware.com
New website Go
to Love
your Inner child and there's a special page where your own inner
child can leave messages and ask questions.- Go to
http://www.love-your-inner-child.com/GIVE_YOUR_CHILD_A_CHANCE_TO_TALK.htm
Pages on this website about making
Relationships Work
Power,
control and individuality issues in relationships
Personal and
impersonal styles 2004
Choosing
Between Personal and Impersonal Channels
Abandonment and engulfment
issues - Why inner selves cannot help with this
Grown-up
relationships and different levels of Individual freedom
Fights
where inner matriarchs and inner patriarchs take over -
Characteristics
of the Inner Patriarch and Inner Matriarch - 2004
Explanation
of
Bonding Patterns - 2003
Bonding
patterns - Case Studies1 - 2003
Bonding
patterns - Case Studies2 -2003
Bonding
Patterns - getting out of them - 2003
The Many
Languages of Love
Under
age selves (inner selves)
LATEST LINKS 2007 Click here
OTHER LINKS OF INTEREST
Sex addiction in Australia
Pages on this website about
working
with Inner Mother and Inner Father
Inner
Mother and Inner Father - the Induction Process -2002
Example
of Inner parent induction - Inner father - 2002
FINDING OTHER FREE ARTICLES OF INTEREST
1. You can find over 50 more FREE
articles in the Table of
Contents for the book "Growing Awareness" Each
separate article is linked and highlighted in the table of contents)
You can click on
each link on the Table of Contents page to
go directly to each one of the 50 separate pages/articles on
voice dialogue, relationships, addictions and personal growth.
2. Some other
recent articles (not included in the book
"Growing Awareness" published March 2000) are also
included on this website. For a list of these articles click
on Other Recent Articles
2004
3. Earlier
articles (not
included in the book "Growing Awareness" published March 2000)
are also included on this website. For a list of these
articles click on Other
Past Articles 2000-2002
4. Miscellaneous articles
including personal profile John Bligh
Nutting (personal details and photo)
5.
Bibliography - an extensive list of
publications by many different authors (going back to the 1930's).
Models of Multiplicity Ego States and Multipersonality models. These
help trace the sources of ideas on inner self work, psychodrama,
sub-personalities, voice dialogue ego states and much more. See also
A Short History of the Inner
selves
6.
Other
Articles Miscellaneous 2000-2003
7. Normal
Multiple
Personalty states in Contrast with DID or Dissociative Identity Disorder.
There is a very significant difference between having
many different inner selves or personality states within us (which can be normal and
healthy or can cause some problems) and DID or Dissociative Identity Disorder (which used
to be known as "Multiple Personality Disorder".) Media presenters often fail to
appreciate this when they talk about personality issues. In fact they even tend to confuse
DID or Dissociative Identity Disorder with Schizophrenia.